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Ok, gonna take the plunge.  Just not meeting anyone within my circle of friends ... and so, going to branch out to dating sites.  Does anyone have experience with them ?   Good or bad ... would love to hear about it ...   Any you might suggest ?

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I liked Match.com.  I always had good luck there. I've heard that Plenty of Fish is good...and free....but I never tried it.  Years ago, on a whim, I signed up for Mate One because it was free for women.  I only met one guy worth dating on there....but we've been together almost 5 years! So, I guess it's just a matter of being on the same site as the guy who is out there looking for you!

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I tried Match.com 3 or 4 years ago and did not last long because I just did not like it. The few men I chatted with were overly-aggressive and insisted (yes, insisted!) on getting info. from me that I USUALLY do not share very early on. I know some people like it (as well as other dating sites) but they just aren't for me.

Good luck though.

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Well I got lots of experience, I am a charter member with match com (16 years), been on plenty of fish for 5 years, Chemistry from it's beginning. I am still single. It might work well in a large city, but in more rural areas like I am in, there just isn't enough people on there from the area. I would never pay for the service. The only reason I am on there is because all three are free to me. Chemistry is the worse.

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Originally Posted by Whitney Stocker:
Well I got lots of experience, I am a charter member with match com (16 years), been on plenty of fish for 5 years, Chemistry from it's beginning. I am still single. It might work well in a large city, but in more rural areas like I am in, there just isn't enough people on there from the area. I would never pay for the service. The only reason I am on there is because all three are free to me. Chemistry is the worse.

Ditto on the big city thing! I live in a very rural area!

While I was in the dating pool I met a lot of nice guys on cupid.com, but they all lived in Reno/Sparks (4 hours from my home).

I have friends (now maaried) who met on match.com

I took my profile off of plentyoffish after just a few weeks. For me it was more like Weirdos Inc.

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I gave up on online dating over a year ago. I don't mind going in to meet new peps but not for dating purposes. I do hear they have some pretty good success rates as far as lasting couples. Give it  try.

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I tried Match right after my ex husband and I split....I met one guy that I liked, but it didn't last long...the rest - well, it would seem like we had great chemistry and then we'd meet for coffee - and there'd be NOTHING.  No real chemistry.  But...I have a good friend who met his wife there.

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From what I've seen, dating sites don't really changes one's chances of finding a good and lasting relationship. Not to discount those who've found love through them, but most people find more drama and gamesmanship than they know what to do with. People have told me that these experiences can get really very tiring because dating sites are very repeatedly quick to put in you the position to discern interest and compatibility to the point of becoming burned out from it.

But then again ya just never know. But it does remind me of the age old question of where are all the good men/women at? And the answer being simply that they're all over, they're just not standing out in the crowd or actively seeking partners so they generally tend to go unseen.

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Thanks for the input everyone ... keep it coming !

Interesting, out of 7 posts ... 1 success.  Congrats, Sue !

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Over the years, I probably tried them all.  Meh ... a lot of surprises.  Some good memories.  But overall, I grew lukewarm to them.

Out of all, I preferred speed dating.  You get to meet them in person first and can get to know a little about them ... can get a better read them much better than you can online.  And since you get to meet them first, you don't have to make wait for a date only to go "Uh-oh" once you meet them.   No pressures, commitments, and no regrets.

Plus, even if you don't find "the one" at any particular event, it's still a lot of fun just doing it.

Even so, everybody's different.  And what suited me best for me may not work for someone else.

FWIW, the speed dating site I went to was www.cupid.com

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Originally Posted by Teri McLacy:


Ok, gonna take the plunge.  Just not meeting anyone within my circle of friends ... and so, going to branch out to dating sites.  Does anyone have experience with them ?   Good or bad ... would love to hear about it ...   Any you might suggest ?

What a coincidence because I too have been thinking of trying the online dating sites as well so I'm going to be paying attention to what folks say here.

Good luck Teri!

I still haven't built up the courage to go on one of those.

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Originally Posted by Sylvia Torres:

Originally Posted by Teri McLacy:


Ok, gonna take the plunge.  Just not meeting anyone within my circle of friends ... and so, going to branch out to dating sites.  Does anyone have experience with them ?   Good or bad ... would love to hear about it ...   Any you might suggest ?

What a coincidence because I too have been thinking of trying the online dating sites as well so I'm going to be paying attention to what folks say here.

Good luck Teri!

I still haven't built up the courage to go on one of those.

It does take a bit of courage! The first guy I met...  I took my girlfriend AND her son..... poor guy was a bit intimidated at first.... but we ended up having a great night! I still talk to him....  

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i met my husband on yahoo personals,been together almost 8 years married almost 3 years

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Scott, I do recall talking with you about speed dating.  I am going to look into those events in my area and see if I can get a girlfriend to tag team with me.

Sylvia, let me know when you join and we can share tips and tricks ...

Jann ... yes it does take a bit of courage ... especially if you have not actively dated in a long while, it's really hard getting back out there.

Congrats, Debbie ... that makes 2 out of 10 (1 out of 5) ... not bad odds, really.

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Originally Posted by Donna Brown:
I tried Match.com 3 or 4 years ago and did not last long because I just did not like it. The few men I chatted with were overly-aggressive and insisted (yes, insisted!) on getting info. from me that I USUALLY do not share very early on. I know some people like it (as well as other dating sites) but they just aren't for me.

Good luck though.

Yes, that has been my experience too; men that were to aggressive. I had one man even tell me to "pony up" or "**** or get off the pot". I deleted my profile soon after that rude comment.  One man even assumed that if he bought me dinner and a drink and because he had to drive from another town that I was going to let him spend the night at my place on the first date! Needless to say, I have been completely turned off by the whole experience and don't know if I even want to start dating again. I may just have to "happen upon" that special someone because I don't see it happening for me any other way.