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Originally Posted by Bob InBama:
The "send to (some number) of the (some quality) men/women that you know. If you get (some number) back, you're (something like the most popular in your High School class)" things I see in my news stream that go back and forth every day.  

I find them annoying, although I'm certain there will be many senders and recipients who disagree, and it is of course, as much your right to send them as it is my right to find them annoying.   I guess my question to people who send them is that if you have, say 30 friends, then why publicly designate only 12 of them as the prettiest (which I'll use as an example, since that's the one floating around today..)?

IMO, if you can't send or say something to all your friends, then why bother or why have them as friends in the first place?

I agree with you!

I've always felt this was some self-righteous desperate attempt at sending out a pathological manipulative inflammatory message of superiority postured genuine friendship, combined with a test to see who's emotionally dependent on best friends with the sender.

And then there are those cryptic messages that only few could ever possibly make sense of, which I feel is relative to what I just typed. This kind of social nonsense is one of the many reasons I can't see having SEVERAL HUNDRED people in my friends list. Sometimes I suspect I resonate with a fair degree of schizoid PD, other times I think I just don't like the bs

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Originally Posted by Bob InBama:
The "send to (some number) of the (some quality) men/women that you know. If you get (some number) back, you're (something like the most popular in your High School class)" things I see in my news stream that go back and forth every day.  

I find them annoying, although I'm certain there will be many senders and recipients who disagree, and it is of course, as much your right to send them as it is my right to find them annoying.   I guess my question to people who send them is that if you have, say 30 friends, then why publicly designate only 12 of them as the prettiest (which I'll use as an example, since that's the one floating around today..)?

IMO, if you can't send or say something to all your friends, then why bother or why have them as friends in the first place?

OR you can do as I do and re-design the message.  For instance, the one going around today is about being a beautiful woman ... send to all your friends and if you get five (or how many) back ... you are beautiful too.  The sentiment behind it is harmless ... and pleasant.  People sending it back are acknowledging they feel the same about you ... no obligation, just being nice.

Instead of re-sending the original message ... I redesigned it by omitting most of it.  My message just ready:

"Beautiful Woman Award"

... and I sent it to those ladies who I feel are beautiful inside and out.  No need to re-send it, just a positive message to friends.  A nice surprise to receive every now and again ... not everyday, mind you (because that gets old and seems forced or habit) ... just now and again is wonderful to me !

What could be annoying about that ?

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****Maybe a bit of a rant here. Not specifically directed at anyone, just venting.

I remember years ago on Myspace I’d see a home-page comment on someone’s profile reading “It’s been a while, call me sometime!” I remember thinking that if they really wanted to reach out and talk, then why not just up and call them, or send them an email, or a private message? Seeing this posted openly in view of all their other connections felt rather advertised, not necessarily or always insincere, but advertised nonetheless.

But in looking at it another way, and while keeping in mind that there are unfortunately some people online desperately seeking interpersonal connections and attention, seeing “Call me sometime” felt like an indirect way of saying to others “See, I’m phoning friends with them, what have YOU got! NANN’r nann’r NAAAAN’rrrrr!” Almost kinda like “Pulling Rank” so to say in an extremely childish and insecure way.

I told my closest friends about this and they agreed; our friendship is between us; it’s private, it’s personal, and our business between us is not everyone else’s. And then one day someone responded, “What, are you ashamed to show the world we’re friends?” This prompted a quick disconnect.

Without going in the direction of what’s right, wrong, appropriate, or inappropriate, what resonates with me is compatibility. I’m not particularly compatible with a person who doesn’t feel any value in keeping personal matters personal. If I wish someone a good day, or if I want to tell them how much they mean to me, or how beautiful a human being I feel they are, or if I’m inviting them out to dinner and/or a movie, whatever, I simply call them, text them, PM them, email them, or if we’re already in person, I privately tell or ask them. But I never advertise any of this openly where others are quite likely to see because it feels like a violation of personal and relational boundaries to me.

Point of compatibility; there are some things we keep private, and there are things we don’t. But if we disagree on these things, then the range of closeness and intimacy between us is affected accordingly.

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My love hate relationship with CB.

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The random bump on my forehead that hurts like a mug ... not sure who ? what ? where ?  

Someone's got some 'splainin to do but I'm not sure who.  

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Well, to be completely honest.....nothing annoys me this morning!

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Originally Posted by Ron Bradlee:
Well, to be completely honest.....nothing annoys me this morning!

PRESIDENT OBAMA WILL GO DOWN IN HISTORY AS THE UNITED STATES' BESTEST PRESIDENT EVER!

I'm usually pretty good at being annoying

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...not being able to find the tablature books I want :/

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Originally Posted by Shawn Ishness:

Originally Posted by Ron Bradlee:
Well, to be completely honest.....nothing annoys me this morning!

PRESIDENT OBAMA WILL GO DOWN IN HISTORY AS THE UNITED STATES' BESTEST PRESIDENT EVER!

I'm usually pretty good at being annoying

Nope, not gonna work!  LOL

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Coworkers who do very slatherly jobs, to which the customer returns and I'm required to 'smooth' **** out :/

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Packing is pretty annoying.

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Originally Posted by Teri Lacy:
The random bump on my forehead that hurts like a mug ... not sure who ? what ? where ?  

Someone's got some 'splainin to do but I'm not sure who.  

OKAY, so not like anyone cares ... but this frickin' "thing" has taken on a life of it's own ... not exactly sure what it is ... but it's huge and it hurts ... never had a bug bite on my forehead but I am beginning to wonder ... we'll see what the morning brings.

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There's so much stigma in being 'in the system' sometimes. But I do suspect that some of these people want to be out of the 'system' far more than the rest of society that condemns them.

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A person who doesn't take their last turn in an egame because they know they've lost and they don't want to take the rating reduction :/

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A person who pushess in at the bar just as im about to get served