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I see that Facebook has added “Domestic Partnership” and a couple other selections for one’s social status. I’ve had mine set to “Single”, but I noticed there was an option for “Divorced”.

So I was kinda wondering what others do if they’re divorced. In a social situation if and when it comes up, do you say you’re single, divorced, something else?

Is it misleading to say you’re “Single” if you’re actually “Divorced”?

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The last time I was single it was because I was a widow. There usually isn't a "widow" box to check so I would add one and write it in.

I don't know why.... but single never felt "right".....

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Originally Posted by Jann Morrison Kostka:
The last time I was single it was because I was a widow. There usually isn't a "widow" box to check so I would add one and write it in.

I don't know why.... but single never felt "right".....

Hi Jann! I think I feel what you're saying there and if that were my cases then I'd probably done the same.

I dunno, maybe I have always said I was "Single" because I was really very happy to BE divorced... if that makes any sense.

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All divorced and widowed people are single.  But not all single people are divorced or widowed.

Whatever someone's comfortable with is fine by me.

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Originally Posted by Scott Terry:
All divorced and widowed people are single.  But not all single people are divorced or widowed.

Whatever someone's comfortable with is fine by me.

I totally agree.

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Would "Separated" be something to pay attention to? With never say never in mind, "Separated" is generally "Just Friends" opportunity to me.

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i think after so many years of being divorced  you are single. but i agree with scott  not all single people are divorced   does that make sense i was wondering the same thing as shawn tho

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I might put Divorced instead of Singlie if it was within the first year of being divorced, because you're usually still going through some issues and getting used to your new singleness.

Right now I'm Divorced, Single...in the sense that I'm not married, In a Relationship, and in a Domestic Partnership.  If you just put "It's Complicated", that just about covers everything!  LOL

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I think it depends on who is asking and in what context.. but for the most part.. whatever you are comfortable with.  Sue..I have to say.. that Its complicated, is one that I hate.. it doesnt say much..  if its complicated..then you need to get it straightened out so its not so complicated..

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I select divorced because I am.

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I am divorced but have been for so many years so when people ask I always say single.

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I have been divorced for so many years (8) the I just go with single now.

as far as the social situation goes and being misleading, I really can't say, for me, it doesn;t matter, for some it does. It's not like your just seperated and saying your single. That would be an issue.

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Originally Posted by Tonya Kiaunis-Dlugas:
I think it depends on who is asking and in what context.. but for the most part.. whatever you are comfortable with.  Sue..I have to say.. that Its complicated, is one that I hate.. it doesnt say much..  if its complicated..then you need to get it straightened out so its not so complicated..

"It's complicated" doesn't resonate well with me. A coworker who's always neck deep in drama put "It's Complicated" in his status after dating another coworkers daughter, and i think that discolored my view of "It's Complicated".

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Originally Posted by Denise Jones:
I have been divorced for so many years (8) the I just go with single now.

as far as the social situation goes and being misleading, I really can't say, for me, it doesn;t matter, for some it does. It's not like your just seperated and saying your single. That would be an issue.

I'm thinking in a social situation, if I've just met someone, putting a lot of focus on the fact of having been divorced could turn someone away. But in my mind, I feel single.

In looking backwards, I would have said 'divorced' and I think it's because like previously said, I was very much dealing with wounded emotions and whatnot. But I'm not personally interested in talking descriptively about divorce just after meeting someone. Maybe offering up its quick fact if asked, but I think more in-depth discussions of it are more appropriate at a later time.

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I agree with everyone who says after so many years having been divorced turns into single ... because you are ... single, not married.   I think at "our" age most of us have been in a serious relationship that's ended at some point whether by divorce, death or whatever.  

SOOoooooo ...

When I see an "it's complicated" ... I do not shut down immediatley, I do proceed with caution but if he is interesting, made of the right stuff for me and may be someone I'd like to spend time with, I'd let the relationship proceed with little expectations and much caution.