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I’m sitting here watching an episode of “Fairly Legal” and the lead character is demonstrating hesitation in signing her divorce papers, which her husband has apparently already signed. This seems to ring familiar with the movie “Twister” with Helen Hunt procrastinating on the matter. I suppose there are countless other examples portrayed in TV and Movies of this.

Anywho, when my Divorce Papers were all drafted up and my ex and I were finally in agreement on all the matter, I didn’t hesitate for one second to sign them. Actually, I couldn’t wait to sign it because I was rather anxious to get the whole thing done and over with.

Was it difficult for you to sign your divorce papers?

For those who may have never married, if you could imagine, how do you think it’d be for you signing your divorce papers?

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Fifth happiest day of my life ... until the divorce dragged on ... and on ... and on ... and on ... and on ...

When I finally got the "it's a done deal" notice, that was the fourth happiest day of my life.

(Numbers 1-3 were my kids births.)

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Originally Posted by Scott Terry:

Fifth happiest day of my life ... until the divorce dragged on ... and on ... and on ... and on ... and on ...

When I finally got the "it's a done deal" notice, that was the fourth happiest day of my life.

(Numbers 1-3 were my kids births.)

I remember this day and how RELIEVED and UNBURDENED I felt. My face hurt from smiling so much that day!

I can only imagine what the dragging effect felt like though. My divorce only took about 3 months to absolute completion. I hear and see these stories of people's divorces taking YEARS and it helps to remind myself that even though I endured a lot of hurt, anger, disgust, etc, there's always someone else experiencing worse.

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It wasn't difficult at all for me.

In fact I was separated for 5 years only because I was waiting on him to file and when I saw he had no intention to I went ahead and filed.

I let him off easily because I just wanted "out" already.  So in order to do that I did not charge him with adultery because then he would have fought me all the way and I was not financially set to let it drag.

So the pig got off easy but it was worth it to be legally free from him.

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Can't WAIT!

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I'm actually the one who filed for a divorce both times, and both times were the happiest days of my life with the exception of when my kids & grandkids were born!

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it wasn't difficult for me either,after years of abuse i couldn't wait,actually my so called attorney forgot to send him the new date and time of the divorce so the judge was going to reschedule it til i stood up and asked her if i could call him and get him down there could we go ahead,she agreed and he came, the rest is history and i mean history...lol

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... never did quite understand why someone would want to be with someone who did not want to be with them (???) .

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Originally Posted by Teri Lacy:
... never did quite understand why someone would want to be with someone who did not want to be with them (???) .

After my separation, I was really very shocked and hurt. But in time and after some healing, this thing you said right here is one of the things that largely helped me to not only accept my divorce, but feel largely thankful for it

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I was absolutely thrilled to be able to sign those papers! And even happier that I never had to talk to the rat bastard that was first husband ever again!!!! I was quite happy to sign the second time with the second husband. We didn't talk much either. IN fact, I talked to him for the first time in many, many years at my aunt's funeral.

Hesitation? pluuuuuuuuuu ease!