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It was in the context of Adam's vocation that God saw that it was not good for man to be alone, and so He said, "I will make a help meet for him" (Gen 2:18, KJV). A vocation is a calling from God, for which that man was created - and his wife with him. A married man who tries to do his task alone is in jeopardy. Such loneliness culminates, so, as we have seen, hundreds of men have fallen into adultery because some woman (secretary, working mate) seemed to fulfill that part of him that needed his vocational helpmeet.

Both may not recognize the calling to vocation at once, or even for many years. They are blessed if they do, but perseverance and circumspect walking must pertain until both do. It is in the context of vocation that a couple shall come to fullness of oneness, and not apart from it, for that is their purpose and destiny in creation.

Every couple has a vocation whether they realize it or not. Many may be doing it and never have given it the name. It need not ring with recognized holiness. What seemed spiritual or holy about tilling a garden? God calls men and women to be farmers, educators, homemakers, publishers, merchants, and so on. For some, garbage collecting is a job; for some the same is also their vocation. Anything can be done with the backing and artistry of heaven. For some, even to be a governor of a state may be only a job, while fulfillment of vocation is in their children or in tending their bed of roses in the garden. Who knows what any other man's vocation is? It is best if a man and wife know it consciously and respond so together, but blessedness and fullness of union arrive anyway if they simply get in harness together.

(Extract from Letting Go of your Past by John and Paula Sandford. p. 95-96)